First have a think about WHY you don’t want to go to school. Is there a problem there? Is there a problem with the people in school? For example, your schoolmates, or teachers. Is there a problem with the work in school? Have a think about whether you are finding schoolwork too easy and maybe getting bored? Or perhaps the work is too hard, or you have missed out on something and can’t catch up? Maybe you have difficulty completing homework or projects? Have you got exams or tests coming up? Are you having any problem studying for these? Or perhaps they are just worrying you? It’s not only school problems that can make it difficult to go to school. Problems at home can affect you too. Maybe a difficulty at home, or with your health is concerning you?
Writing down your likes and dislikes about going to school can be helpful. It means you can work out what any difficulties might be so you can work on those. And you can see which things you like and improve on those too. Going to school can have its good points. Learning how to get with other people is an important lesson to learn. And even mixing with other people just on a daily basis can help you learn about that, almost without having to think about it. The give and take of daily talk with your classmates has an important part to play in helping you develop your own take on life and learning to argue logically for your point of view, as well as listen thoughtfully to others. It is also important in learning how to get on with people.
Physical exercise is also important, with team games helping you to learn lessons that will serve you well in later work, as well as helping to keep you healthy. While you could find other ways of improving your skills, knowledge and health apart from going to school, it means making a deliberate effort to find ways of doing this, whereas in school, the opportunities are all there, almost without having to think about them. Of course, the downside of school can be having to attend lessons you don’t like, find out about subjects you don’t understand and even mix with people you don’t like.
Turning round a negative aspect to a positive one usually involves action of some kind but we often find it difficult to make the changes in our behaviour and lifestyle that we should because the pain of change is here and now, while the promised future reward seems like pie in the sky. Taking action means deciding on a goal and starting to work towards it. Decide on a goal to work towards. This must be a measurable goal, something you can say you either did or did not reach.
Your goal might be to attend 90% of all classes, if this is better than your current attendance! On the other hand, you may want to set a goal for the marks you want to get in a test or exam, or for actually completing and putting in homework or set work.
Maybe your goal is to improve your study skills or your exam marks. You might set a goal of learning one new study skill a week and spending 10 minutes a day using that skill. It doesn’t seem like a whole lot of time, does it? But it will make a noticeable difference very quickly. If you want to make more friends or learn better social skills, you could join a club or take up a sport or activity and take part. Alternatively, you volunteer with a charity or some organisation that needs help.